Spiritual direction is an ancient term that simply means having regular conversations with someone who is listening deeply to the spiritual landscape of your life. “Direction” is far more important than destination, for this relationship is all about the journey. The goal of spiritual direction is NOT to find all the answers to life, but to live more wholeheartedly no matter what circumstances bring.
Living this way is simple, but it’s not quick or easy. Spiritual direction provides a safe place to wrestle with questions, practice new ways of praying, see ourselves as we really are, and surrender to the mystery of a loving God. No one else can do this work for us. And doing the work doesn’t actually guarantee we’ll be transformed. But spiritual direction helps us stay accessible to the Spirit who makes all things new.
If this kind of adventure is calling to you, there are some ways I can support you in your journey.
How It Works
You are not here by mistake. Whatever your desire for more in your spiritual life, it is on purpose. But there is no forcing in this journey. Each step is yours alone to take, when you are ready to take it.
God is right in the middle of all of this, leading, guiding and directing. This God is also deeply in love with you, untamable, unpredictable, undemanding, and relentlessly finding creative ways to invite you to follow.
I am also on a spiritual journey, a fellow traveler who’s come to deeply love the geography of the soul and the Creator of the terrain. I have been in spiritual direction myself since 2005 and am certified as a spiritual director through the Benedictine Spiritual Formation Program in Black Forest, Colorado where I participate in group supervision. I lead occasional retreats on prayer, soul care, and storytelling.
The traditional model for one-on-one spiritual companion-ing is 60 minutes together about once a month. I’m responsible for opening and closing the hour, but the majority of the conversation is up to you. What should you talk about? Our growing spiritual edge always seems to be right where we are now, so we can talk about anything going on in your life, heart or mind. I call it, “the immediate adventure,” and it’s often a crossroads, big or small, where you’re sensing anticipation or uncertainty. Whatever you bring, it is the very thing that can draw you closer and deeper into God’s heart.
Our time together will always be a kind of prayer; it is a sacred space. Everything you share with me will remain private and be kept confidential, unless there is an immanent threat of harm to you or others, which I am bound to report.
Everyone has a unique pace. Your season in life, your daily schedule, your relationships are all part of your growth. Listen to your life as it is, and respond. You may find you want a regular time, a monthly rhythm of ongoing conversations. Make appointments for as far ahead as you are comfortable. On the other hand, you may not be fully in charge of your own time, or life may move at such a pace that you aren’t aware you need a spiritual conversation until you’re stuck. Reach out as you can and schedule appointments as you’re able. In between conversations, if you want to ask for prayer, articulate a question or celebrate a discovery, get in touch with me.
The value of Spiritual Direction is different for each person. Is it as worthwhile as a haircut or a good meal at a restaurant to you? Or is it as priceless as a gift given with no strings attached? The ministry of Spiritual Direction has been God’s gift to me, and I do not charge to share it with you. If you feel led to respond by giving back, a $35 gift per session will help me cover my costs.
Life is not static, and there may come a time when spiritual direction no longer serves your needs. We will periodically check in and review where we are and where God is at work. When a time comes to end our regular direction conversations, we’ll take a final session for closure and blessing.
Get in touch if you have more questions about spiritual direction with me.